The actual wedding took place on 12 November, but we're leaving for our cruise honeymoon on Friday, so there's no chance of blogging on the day of the one month wedding anniversary.
It's really too bad that I wasn't able to blog more during the two months directly before and after the wedding, but a wedding is completely exhausting and I really didn't have much energy for anything other than remembering to brush my teeth before falling asleep. The whole thing is a bit of a happy blur. I like it that way (blurred, I mean). It means I won't remember the specific things that went wrong. (It's true that tiny things go wrong on important days; don't kid yourself on this point.)
So what has married life been like so far?
1.) Our relationship, home, and ways of living are exactly the same as they were before. This is good; it indicates that we were open and honest about our expectations for married life and that our habits were pretty close to our ideal before getting married.
2.) A lot of people suddenly want to know when I'm going to start popping out babies. Some of the time this question bothers me and some of the time it doesn't. It all depends on who is asking, what the context is, and what other possible topics of conversation are on the table. I have a supervisor at the main place I volunteer who is trying to get pregnant. Discussing my/our plans with her seems relevant to our workplace friendship. Discussing my/our plans with the apartment maintenance guy does not. My MIL wrote a note about wanting to see "the products of your love;" that was totally inappropriate, if you ask me, and she's more likely to end up with a sex tape than with a grandchild.
3.) We're married, but our cat is still a bastard.
4.) I thought I had made a lot of noise about keeping my name, but apparently I haven't made enough. I'm trying to stay amused when people call me "Amy I." I figure the mistake will happen for the rest of my life and I need to not let the anger burn constantly.
