I'm getting married in 8.5 weeks, and I perceive a lack of web content that speaks to my situation. I don't need relationship help; we have a great relationship (if we didn't, we wouldn't be getting married). I don't need guidance for how to have a good marriage; I have my parents, as well as my larger community, as role models.
What I need is to be able to read and talk about things that speak to our ultimate goal: A wifeless marriage.
Historically, wives only exist as subordinate to husbands. That's pretty much over, as far as secular society goes. (You can have your own checking account, ladies! Woohoo!) That being said, the tradition lives on in a thousand little ways. For me, a part of getting married is disowning that history. It's not as simple as it sounds.
There are conservative Christian resources all over the web which teach how to embrace that history. Hell, a prominent Republican presidential candidate boasts about how she's a "submissive wife" and only got her degree in tax law because her husband told her to. If that doesn't make your skin crawl away, you probably aren't the intended audience for this blog. Don't come here looking for a help-meet, 'cause there ain't one at home.
So who is the counter-model? It's hard to say. Staying in the political realm for a moment, the Obamas seem to have a happy marriage, but I would not be content with ultra-feminine role that I perceive the First Lady to be fulfilling currently. These days I admire no one so much as Hillary Clinton, but the Clinton marriage hasn't been a picnic. Their love might well be genuinely unique, in a way that only the love of two first world leaders could be...but a marriage of two Alphas? Not for me. On an intense day I'm what you'd call an "A minus" personality -- and that's after three cups of coffee. My husband-elect identifies as an "alpha geek," exerting dominance over a small subsection of the population and nowhere else.
So I search, and read, and listen. This is as much of an introductory post or a mission statement as I can provide. After all, if I had the answers, I wouldn't be blogging.
